A big part of clutter control is monitoring what comes into the home. With companies marketing toward children more and more, children naturally, seem to want more and more.
While this can be annoying, it is completely normal.
“Oh!” a child might say. “A sparkle jump rope! I want that”
“No,” says the parent. “Your already have enough things.”
“But I really really want it!” the child says.
“No.” says the parent.
While it’s okay to say no, the shutdown often creates more of a problem than anything else.
Instead, try to find a way to make it positive. (Bonnie and Tom Liotta atCreating Champions for Life are great at this!)
Instead of saying no, try this:
Child: “Oh! A sparkle jump rope! I want that!”
Parent: “Look at that sparkle jump rope! I think you have a similar one at home, don’t you?”
Child: “Yeah, but I really want THIS one!”
Parent: “All right. Let’s make that a goal. We can brainstorm some ways for you to get it and make a plan.”
We do this to ourselves sometimes to avoid impulse buying, right? Take some time and wait to see if we really want it. If we do–great, it is usually a meaningful purchase. If not, that’s great too. However, buying should have thought behdind it.
If it’s something the child truly does want, you can work with them to find a way to earn it.
This doesn’t have to be the end of buying things for your child–but it is the beginning of discussions and awareness of how buying can affect our children and our homes.